Gentlemen, let me tell you a little secret: Effort is sexy. The type of woman you want will not stand for the lazy courtship. A girl might – but I’m accrediting the mature and confident women who know what they want in a man. These are the women who are over the dating games, and they’re the ones who will make the best partners.
When a man meets a special woman, he will most certainly care about her, and what it takes to keep her interested.
He should care about her needs, and he should put forth any extra effort necessary to accommodate her and make her feel comfortable, desired, and, well, courted.
Many of the men of today’s generation have subscribed to the lazy courtship. Many men firmly believe that chivalry and courting are old-fashioned, unnecessary tactics of impressing the woman they desire. The result? They’re passive in their pursuit of a woman even when they’re smitten, and many women find dating difficult for this exact reason.
Effort seems to be seen less and less among men of the newer generations.
For example, the sexy and aggressive alpha male who is in hot pursuit of a woman and puts extra effort in? That man has become a diamond in the rough, making way for the rise of the passive and lazy man, and the lazy courtship. This happens because women let men get away with it. Low self-esteem causes some women to settle for less, or as some suggest, becoming the new men – aggressively going after what they want in order to make up for the effort men are lacking.
Gentlemen: Whether you are looking for a special lady or have found one, how is your passive demeanor going to show her how special she is to you and more importantly, keep her around? Here are 6 reasons why women can’t stand passive men, or the lazy courtship:
1. Compatibility Requires Equal Effort
For a couple to be compatible, a mutual interest in progressing the relationship is required. That being said, equal effort must also be put forth, rather than one person simply being along for the ride.
In our generation women are noticing that men are becoming more and more passive, feeling less of a need to put effort into their pursuit. This is perhaps because of online dating apps offering many other options.
We see this in sexual scenarios, too, where the modern man doesn’t always put much effort in to seduce or ‘turn on’ a woman he wants to sleep with. But what if that women needs a little effort and seduction in order to feel comfortable enough to sleep with him?
If a woman is initiating without an equal amount of initiative and effort on her man’s part, she will begin to feel that she is pursuing him, and women can’t stand that feeling.
Equal effort is especially important during the beginning stages of a relationship, when a woman is relying on momentum and natural progression.
2. Many Women Still Want Men to Take Initiative and Take the Lead
It may seem old fashioned, but women are turned on by a man who takes the lead – or they at least take notice of him. Women inherently love to be pursued.
When it comes to sex, many women feel anxious or sexually awkward, and they want their man to take initiative and take the lead, while also making them feel relaxed and comfortable.
Going back to our parent’s generation, it was often expected of men to take the lead. Today, however, men believe women should take the lead sometimes, too.
The only problem with this mentality is that women still to this day love it when a man takes the lead and pursues them. There’s no denying that women are attracted to men who make the plans, put forth the initial effort, and make statements instead of asking questions. Men should try a more direct and bold approach, and be more forward by saying “Would you like to go out for a drink tonight around 7?” rather than the passive, “Hey, what are you up to?”
3. A Woman is a Reflection of the Way Her Man Treats Her
When a woman is being treated well by her man, and her man is putting effort in to show her how special she is to him, it is reflected in this woman’s general aura. A woman who is being treated well by her man has a glow about her. She is happy, passionate, driven and ambitious. She is a reflection of her man, and her mood is a reflection of how she’s treated. Anxiety sufferers, for example, can notice a dramatic shift in their mood when they’re treated well by their man.
If a woman has a man in her life who is lazy, passive, and doesn’t care enough to put in any real effort, this woman’s self-esteem and self-respect gets damaged. Putting forth effort (even in very small but consistent ways) makes a world of difference in any relationship.
4. Women Believe that Men Don’t Respect Anything Easily Attained
It’s a catch-22. Many modern men don’t feel the need to put in effort when it comes to pursuing the woman they want. However, they also don’t respect a woman who’s easily attained.
If a woman feels a connection with a man, and is willing to look past his frustratingly lazy courtship, the man will wonder why his lazy courtship worked. He may even subconsciously lose interest because it was too easy. It is a lose-lose situation. The win-win? Women need to have more self-respect and not settle for less than they deserve, while men could definitely step it up a little to show that they value how special their woman is. Knowing that a man does not respect anything easily attained can sometimes guard women from taking initiative themselves.
5. Modern Women Still Melt for Chivalry
Why is chivalry practically dead? Most likely because these days, a cute text message can be considered romantic, and even though women really appreciate cute texts, texting is easy – and lazy.
Not only is it lazy, but it’s also a way for a man to effortlessly create the false intimacy needed in order to keep women on the hook and string them along.
If his way of telling you he likes you or misses you is via text message, and he’s not making plans to see you, or calling you, or really proving it, then he is the type of man who will probably break up with you via text message too. This man is winning! He gets to have you when he wants you, and all he had to do was move his thumbs for a few seconds. Real chivalry looks a lot different than this, and women still crave it. Chivalry is important in order for a woman to feel like she matters to her man, so guys, plan a cute date night every once in awhile!
Light some candles, give her a massage, and show some effort.
6. Many Women Measure Their Value in the Amount of Effort the Man Puts Forth
From a man’s perspective, he might think it’s awesome that his passive pursuit works. These men, however, are usually only hooking women with low self-esteem and low self-respect who don’t think they deserve much more than what they’re getting out of their man. I mentioned how texting is an example of a man’s lazy courtship as it can help create false intimacy.
Real intimacy comes in different forms, and if a man doesn’t care about his woman that much, it will show in the minimal effort put forth – and a woman will realize she must not be that valuable to him. If she’s a good woman and worth it, some effort should be put forth on the man’s part. Go and see her if she’s sick instead of texting “feel better soon”, and call her on Wednesday to ask her out Saturday night instead of passively waiting until the weekend rolls around. Even small efforts like this can make an incredible difference, so if you find a woman who is worth it, don’t hold back – and don’t be lazy.
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I just want to bring something to your attention. Men are passive because we have been TAUGHT by women that we should not pursue. Yes, if there is that special someone with real chemistry, a genuine interest, passion, she deserves to be pursued, but women need to show the man that she likes him too. Women need to reciprocate. If women don’t reciprocate they lose their place in the courtship. The man backs off because his efforts aren’t rewarded. After being rejected in this type of way it’s no surprise that men put in less effort. Women do not reciprocate. I have made a pact with myself that whatever woman reciprocates my intense passion and desire for her I will spend the rest of my life with her, and ONLY her. It’s not just millennial men that are the problem it’s also millennial women. Women that just go out for an ego boost. Some women are so jaded that when you try to love them they push you away out of spite. She wants to punish you for the crime of every past man in her life. So why are men so passive? Our society is filled with sexual stimulation not to mention countless amounts of pornography. Men can’t even get an erection when they are with a beautiful woman because they are accustomed to something that isn’t real. Young men are showing up with ED. Healthy young men. You can easily Google this. They are passive because they would rather jack off than risk having to go through the potential pain of pursing a woman worthy of that pursuit. I know this because I was one of those men. I have my drive back now. So why not let your female readers know that they need to put in just as much effort in because guys have issues they are dealing with too. Let the women know that they need to be sensitive, real, and that most importantly they need to RECIPROCATE.
I reciprocate my interest all the time and yet Im still met with lackadaisical efforts. I tell men that I like them, that I think they are attractive, that I appreciate them. I am very straightforward with that because I’m a direct woman. Yet somehow, I meet men who still treat me poorly but tell me I’m wrong for feeling that way. The last guy I was dating flipped out because I wanted him to make plans in advance instead of always at the last minute. Somehow he treated my request like it was unreasonable. Basically told me that I wasn’t accepting him for who he was and we broke up. That was literally the ONLY thing I wanted from him!! Everything else about us was great. It is shocking that stuff like respecting someone’s time by planning dates in advance is too much to ask. My friend said she once told a guy that she wanted to feel special and he told her that’s not his job because that’s supposed to come from within herself. Ridiculous!!!! Men don’t know how to love and value women anymore. They have not only become lazy but they are easily scared off. Sending too many texts one day and you’re history. Have a bad day where you’re being moody and you’re cut off. I don’t know why the world is so lazy. Men forget that we are human and not perfect. No one believes in trying anymore. I hate it so much and I cry all the time about this. I don’t understand why it’s so hard to meet a man who tries. I’m tired of not going on real dates, tired of men who are too busy, tired of men who are always confused, tired of men who are dating multiple women and make you feel like an option or like you’re not good enough, tired of the “wass up” texts late at night. When women are treated well, we treat men well. The issue lies in men not wanting to make decisions. He’s unable to make you a priority because it requires him being decisive and making an effort. I want to give up completely! It’s too hard and yes, it’s ripping my self esteem to pieces.
The reality is that men have learned that women are always changing and men don’t like it. We men are simple compared to women. We don’t like change. We don’t like women that one day want “X” and two days later decide they want “Q”! You tell us you want “X” and that’s it. No changing your mind constantly!
Then there is the entire “Equally/Feminism. Many of us men want women to be treated equally. Equal pay, equal job opportunities. Equal treatment. But it’s another “Catch 22” for us men. Women want men to chase, beg and pay. Women want us to pick the events and places but then get nasty with us as the dating phase develops. “No man is going to tell me what to do!”.
We men have our faults in women’s eyes and we have accepted that. This is another of the many reasons we are increasingly not caring and walking away. We don’t want to change. We don’t want to chase and look like idiots any longer. Sure, there are still some men out there that will jump through hoops to impress but I’m betting with each passing day fewer and fewer are out there that will play the game.
Not bitter. Loving life and work. Always busy and productive without having to get permission from a woman nor the backlash from a woman for doing what I want to do. I treat all my friends the same regardless of whether they are woman or men.
Damn straight!
Send too many texts and you are history. Communication needs to have a point!
It is your job to make yourself feel special. If you don’t think you’re special, nothing anyone else does will matter. Not that you won’t insist we keep trying.
Act moody and you are cut off, pronto! If I did something to you, speak up and I’ll own up and apologize. If you’re mad about something completely unrelated to me (usually the case), you have NO RIGHT to take that out on me! Who do you think you are, projecting your moods all over the place and trying to make everyone else miserable!?
And if I’m too busy or not taking you on ‘real’ dates, that means I don’t like you. So move on. It happens. Don’t tell me you like every guy you’ve ever met. It works both ways, sweetheart.
I will never send you a “wassup” text or a dick pic. Feel free to dump any ‘man’ who does.
If you let anyone or anything “rip your self esteem to pieces”, you are not ready and not strong enough to be in a relationship. Take some time away from us (please?) and work on yourself.
I’ve given you some good advice here. Try it. If you don’t try it, I don’t want to hear your complaints. Or would you rather be a complaining victim? It seems most women are.
It’s probably because you pursue the top 10% guuys. It’s always the same. Women complain about fuck boys and men not doing effort. If you’re all competing for the same 10% guys, those guys have lots of options, they don’t NEED to commit or court, because the women throw themselves at them. Most guys (average looking but invisible for most women) don’t have that many options so they will do the effort.
‘My friend said she once told a guy that she wanted to feel special and he told her that’s not his job because that’s supposed to come from within herself. Ridiculous!!!! ‘
What is ridiculous about that? Stop using men to make yourself better. You always use men when you feel depressed but when your life is getting better you just look for the next better thing and you dump the guy who carried you when you were down the gutter.
10000000000000000000000 % true.
men need to pursue woman
but woman should realize that even men want to be pursued which him feel he is worthy desirsble atractive sexy ego boost nd loved.
god. lol. every women say he is not pursuing me. i dont understand who will pursue a man. other woman or other gay man?
brother. what ever you say and how much you shout about male desire to be pursued. women are women. they dont reciprocate. they think they are beautiful and men should pursue them to feel more beaitiful. but who will pursue man and make him feel beautiful. no woman.
yes bro. women dont reciprocate. they are not much interested in making us feel beautiful and sexy by pursuing us but expect from us.
you know what it is. it is woman.
Ace hit the nail on the head. This article says in bold lettering that a relationship is created with equal effort.
A very egalitarian and reasonable statement.
It then goes on to say men need to take the lead. Men need to invest their effort. Men need to be old fashioned, put themselves out there. Pay for dinner, ask her out, give a care.
Reciprocity is the word ladies. No man with self respect jumps through hoops and puts himself out there for women after women to find the right one. The thing women don’t seem to understand is that when you put yourself out there and take all the risks you will get rejected, and used, and ignored. It takes many attempts and failures to find someone you click with. It’s a process. That’s dating. It takes patience and time. But, women want it all done for them. They want men to work for them. Jump through hoops for them. Imagine you are the old fashioned chivalrous gentleman and attempt to create a relationship with 1,000 different women (that’s a lot of time and effort to find your one girl). But, things just don’t work out. You don’t like them, they don’t like you. Whatever, you keep a good attitude and just keep investing all the effort to cater to what women want, and, you finally find her. You both like each other. After you’ve put in all the effort to establish the relationship, who will have to maintain the relationship? Who will have to cater to the needs of a spoiled girl? She clearly didn’t care in the first place. That’s why it was so much work to find her. She wanted it done for her. And now in the relationship she still wants it done for her. To assume anything different would be foolish.
Reciprocation is a rare and beautiful thing. “Old fashioned” is girl code for entitled.
Um.. wow.
I read the comments here, and was actually puzzled. I like men (I’m a girl… 51 yr old woman, actually).. I mean, I like them as people.
Some of these comments just read like people want to have something… But don’t really “like” the opposite sex.
I firmly believe you get back the energy that you send out into the world. I’ve met lots of men that I didn’t have a connection with, but we’re still very decent guys.
I can’t recall ever feeling bitter about the dating world. People are just people.. good and bad together.
For the record..I drive halfway, and split the bills.. it’s only fair.
‘I can’t recall ever feeling bitter about the dating world. People are just people.. good and bad together.’
Of course, you are a woman. Between the age of 18 and 30 you can get literally every man you want. Men don’t have that luxury. It’s only when women didn’t get their first choice they get bitter, hence they initiate +70% of divorces.
As a foreigner living in US. I’ve noticed that too. Women here don’t know how to attract a man they are so passive, even after making the first move, she still waiting for you to do everything. Texting not calling back , calling not calling back, ask her out, Start talking about diner, movie, flowers. Most of them have a low self esteem specially the women I’ve met.
Men have gotten lazier because sex is now easier to obtain. It’s that simple. Dating is nothing more than free prostitution these days, so I just skip it and charge for my services.
I looooove this. Women throwing themselves at the top10% guys who have tons of options but 90% of the guys are invisible for these women so they think all guys have option. Breaking: they haven’t. It’s women who can obtain sex easier nowadays, not men.
its not all true, I was seeing a women and she was ill with flu so I text her to see how she was, she told me she was dreadful so after work I went to see her with flowers and some food as she was too ill to make herself anything, we cuddled on sofa and I thought I did a good job of cheering her up and scoring some brownie points, that’s last I ever saw her in person, she text me a week later and said you’re too needy and I dont want to continue with us anymore. so these days i don’t bother now I’ve had a few relationships since, 1 was serious but I left her after we lost our baby because it became too much work to even make an effort with her…
Agreed. Expressing my interest in a woman has NEVER worked for me. Over the years, all the ones I asked out or even flirted with almost always rejected me. The only times anything has ever worked romantically has been when the woman made the first move (i.e., said “hey – we should get together some time”, gave me her phone number, her email, etc.) or when she showed more interest in me than I showed in her.
This article was written by a woman who apparently isn’t aware that women like a challenge.
The last woman I made any kind of effort with lost interest in me the moment I showed real interest in her. We had been flirting, chatting (a lot!), and spending time together for several weeks. Things really seemed to be progressing (I have the text messages to prove it). I made an effort to come see her, often at my own inconvenience, even when she was recovering from surgery.
I bought us dinner, supported her emotionally, went out of my way to spend time with her, even brought her flowers. What happened? She had me come all the way uptown to see her on a Friday night just to friendzone me. As if that wasn’t enough, she spent the evening ignoring me while talking to a whole bunch of other guys. Even after that night, I tried to show her I truly cared, and where did that get me? Her ultimately crying to me about some other guy she suddenly decided that she liked and who was repeatedly ignoring her. She even tried to get me to help her gain his interest.
By the way, this “girl” was 31 years old at the time. I’d thought women behaved better than that.
Women think they want to be courted, but only if the guy looks like Ryan Reynolds. What they really want is a guy whom they think has other options and whom they feel the need to impress. They need to feel they have to work a bit, both to catch and keep a guy’s attention, otherwise they lose interest.
If you’re at best just-above-average looking, you’ll always reduce your worth in her eyes the more effort you seem to be making. If the woman decides that she likes you (you have a fantastic wit, you’re very accomplished, you make her smile), let her pursue.
I agree with Ace.
However women need to stop acting like the man and woman in relationship. This can go for both a male or female: sometimes you got to tell your person that it isn’t acceptable. You aren’t going to do this, or that. Especially if they are starting to go ‘lazy’ on you (man or woman, doesn’t matter). If they are starting to go lazy on you, you better hit it back up.
Me as a woman, I want to be a wife type once married so I think it’s okay for the man to court (to be the ‘support’) similar to how it used to be done in the past; for example the man did everything for the potential mate.
Because once married I will be the support instead (do everything for the man). In the past man wooed woman and sometimes a woman wooed a man; now it’s nothing, just a mess.
Sometimes you just can’t let your woman or man get away with they are doing. So be firm and communicate with maturity what you don’t like.
Very few men want a stay at home woman. It’s expensive and everyone needs to work to stay caught up with financial responsibility. Women without a job, no date from me. Likewise if I didn’t have a job, I wouldn’t expect a woman to date me. 21st Century here, not the 1950s.
‘Me as a woman, I want to be a wife type once married so I think it’s okay for the man to court (to be the ‘support’) similar to how it used to be done in the past; for example the man did everything for the potential mate.’
Yeah of course you do, so you don’t have to face rejection. It’s 2021, we’re done with that bullshit, time for women to initiate dates. It’s way more logical since men aren’t that picky and will less likely reject women if they court.
Sounds like someone is bitter. And the exact problem with men these days: entitled delusions. Both genders complaining of just being used should gain better discernment. It’s just that men see relationships as transactional (to get something usually sex, companionship, chores done for them) and women seek intimacy and safety in them. So when women end up being “too picky” as guys say, ie having discernment that allows low effort men to disqualify themselves as being lazy, they end up alone. But they aren’t as bitter about it, because they know their worth, whereas the MGTOW group up in here KNOW they bring nothing and feel entitled to a woman regardless, proving it further by literally searching these articles to come on and defend themselves? LOL comical. Just work on yourself, say no to anyone who doesn’t fit what you want, and go from there. Women seeking out articles to guide themselves shows an openness to work on self, whereas the men are looking to defend themselves as right, which is unironically the case in many relationships: the guy thinks he has nothing wrong with him and it is the woman who should change. Go on your way, you will not be missed. We will continue working on ourselves and attracting better. We won’t be consumed with hopping on posts about women and being butthurt. *Shrug.*
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I refuse to put in effort because I have yet to meet a woman that puts in the same amount of effort. From Day 1 I do all of the work, and I’m tired of it. From online dating to the bar scene, women think it acceptable to just sit back and be courted. Well fuck you, it’s not worth it. It’s not worth the effort and it’s not worth the time and it’s not worth the money. I can pay $3-500 to an escort who will pretend to be interested in everything I am saying and then let me fuck her without all the fucking loops, and you know what? It’s still cheaper than trying to find a girl on the dating scene.
So no, I won’t be putting in the effort. I’ll just continue to fill the role of sugar daddy and the occasional escort. I’m done wasting my time with petty women who think the world needs to cater to them. Fuck you.
Matt – Don’t you know that men are natural hunters ( wait, let me go chase down some raw meat) and just LOVE a good chase? Did you not know that? The men do the work and te women do nothing. Now where do I sign up?
Wow! What a wonderful double standard! What if me judged women by the effort that THEY put in the dating game? Oh, we couldn’t have that!
Its not worth it….sorry ladies.
Too much work just for an orgasm.
We have friends for companionship
Fuck you
These guys are right, I was a moron who did the dating bullshit and American women are dysfunctional damaged animals. Especially women over 32. Just use them for sex and lie to them. Believe me, these whores have lied to millions of good men. Stop demonizing men, there is a myriad of slutbags in this country who whine they are not being courted which is bitchspeak for buy me stuff because I am cheap and lazy. Bang and drop them like french class as the say
I find that both men & women MUST both put an effort in the relationship otherwise it will never work. With that being said Lazy Courtship occurs because when a man thinks he’s got the girl the work seems to end there when it never should. The only time cute texting is a bit more acceptable is when your in a distance relationship and even then there’s love poems, cards & lots of creative ideas you can do which you can find on Pinterest to continue to show her how much she means to you. I never could understand why its so difficult for men to make Plan in advance for a special or even a non special evening. When a man leaves things to the last minute it shows the “little” effort that was put in and how little you care about the event and her. Show her you care not just “tell” her. I have always & will continue to reciprocate to the end even if it means one of my reasons for the breakup. I cannot and will never out up with a man who is lazy in courting me. I know what I am worth and know what I put into the relationship to settle for anything less.
who cares what women can’t stand
I think that you care, and I believe that we, as men, all care.The sad part is that there is some kind of game to be played here , and you better be REALLY good at manipulation and fooling people in order to play it.
I think that we all care! It is just a shame that all these women believe that we are in some second class citizenship for not wanting to be treated this way. We looked forward to being good dads and good husbands -to be like our own dads – but the “dating” rules are really strange and you damn well better know what you are doing, or you MUST be punished for it. Shame!
Well if you can’t stand lazy courtship, you probably won’t like “no courtship” either. And that’s where we are. A relationship with a woman adds nothing but misery to a man’s life. So many men have dropped out of the dating and courtship game. Now you consider this a problem, but we don’t. So don’t expect our help, or expect us to change our decision to boycott women. You women will have to demonstrate that you have some value to us. It will be difficult, because men are finding out how awesome freedom is.
Lol no one considers this a problem. Nobody cares if you don’t want be with a woman there’s no loss here lmaooo 7 billion of people on this planet sooooo you’re no gonna be missed dusty.
Eric- I think that we ALL care, but we are all just trying to get a fair shake by dumping these horrible double standards that reduce men to chasing cars down the street, like dogs, as if the man has to somehow “earn” her love. I think that we are seeing this change!
It seems nowadays women want the man to have everything together. Job, money, clothes, cars etc. I have yet to meet any woman that is willing to build something, anything with their man. Be it relationship, business, a fuckin backyard deck…. women want the man to provide and do all. I refuse to work hard everyday so I can give it to someone that’s supposed to be my partner or teammate and they contribute nothing.
Duhhhh no woman wants a dusty lazy ass who will sit on the couch and expect the woman to cook, clean, raise the kids and go to work AND help him get his shit together! LMAO! All while he scratches his ass and complains all day. Fohhhh dustttyyyyyy!
And men are tired of golddiggers who only want a man who is already succesfull and rich. What ever happened to ‘building up a life together’? Behind every succesfull man is a woman, because women don’t follow unsuccesfull men.
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Lol…you want a mind slave. Nice “relationship” assbag
lol I know this is BS, but it kinda shows the lengths women will go just to not show appreciation, interest, or love to a man directly… using goddamn casters and witchery to get a man back in their lives. ooo but we got to be direct, confident, and shoot our shots directly with no hesitation. It also shows how women have no control over their own reality. Always depending on horoscopes and some bullshit to tell them what to do or feel.
Fuck a girl then ghost her, it’s the best thing you can do for them, maybe they toughen up a little. And you can have fun with the Boyz playing Wz or whatever you play. it’s worked nicely for me. (I used to put myself out there and do nice things for my girlfriends, but got fucked every single time) just do you.
The lazy person is the one who is doing less and demanding more….
Recently finding the opposite of this article to be true – us guys do most of the work since we’re expected to, yet get scraps in response. A lot probably has to do with the online culture and too much choice; some of the rest may have to do with using that as a privilege to just receive attention and nothing more. Agreed with others that mentioned it’s a two way street, not a tug of war between who can do what for the other person. If you want to make time for a relationship and to date, you will – make it known to your partner. If you don’t then continue to just sit on your phone and wait for a text to ignore from someone new. Guys, make the effort to get to know the women in your life and women, take the time to acknowledge them and respond. Fairly basic communication, do that enough and you’ve got a relationship going, or at least potential for there being one. Not everyone feels like talking all of the time and not everyone will like you, but just reciprocate the effort!
American and western males are sad excuses for men, ladies don’t waste your time and go for a eastern men…Middle East, Eastern Europe, Asia. These men know how to be real men.
Maybe I’m lucky I’m not interested romantic (or sexual) in woman. But ironically I often read woman play victim when there are not men who approach here. When they expect men do to all and women only being passive receiver, so that’ s up to the men to approach you or not.
Many men lazy because they know that women are also lazy if they only wait and expect chivalry, so in equality either BOTH men and women can get free pass to be lazy or BOTH (including women) can not get free pass to be lazy.